Your family has stories. You just have to find the one worth keeping.
Most people get stuck before they even book, not because they don't have anything to talk about, but because they don't know where to start. You don't need the perfect question or the perfect plan. You just need one real conversation, and I'll help you find it.
A RECENT MOMENT
Something that happened lately that you keep thinking about.
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What's something that happened in the last year that surprised you about them?
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Is there a recent moment, big or small, you wish you'd asked more about at the time?
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What's changed for them recently that they haven't really talked about?
A specific stretch of time. Their twenties, raising you, a career, a hard year.
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What part of their life do you actually know the least about?
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Is there a job, a place they lived, or a relationship you've always been curious about?
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What did they go through that you only know the outline of, not the actual story?
A CHAPTER OF LIFE
The wide version. Where they started, what shaped them, how they got here.
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If they could only pass down one story, what do you think it'd be?
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What do you want your kids to know about them someday?
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What's a question you've never quite worked up the nerve to ask?
A LIFE OVERVIEW
Find your starting point
Pick whichever feels closest. There's no wrong choice, this just gives us a place to begin.
One more thing
worth knowing...
Once you've got a thread, it helps to know what kind of conversation you're leaning toward. You can mix all three, this is just a starting lean.
Stories and memories. Life lessons and advice. Relationships and family. Most conversations end up touching all three, so don't worry about choosing exactly right.